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The popularity of St Valentine’s Day grew out of the joy of celebrating romantic married love. The celebration also encourages us to renew and develop that love. God is love and this year we focus on one particular aspect of deepening the love of a couple, whether they are engaged or married – that is, by turning to God in ‘couple prayer’.

What is Couple Prayer?

Couple Prayer is any prayer said by a couple together. Sounds simple? Well, yes and no! Many couples pray together when attending Mass, saying grace before meals or saying the Rosary. These are wonderful ways to pray but they are not ‘Couple Prayer’. Couple Prayer is when an engaged or married couple speak to God about their needs, concerns and hopes while allowing the other person to hear. It requires a level of intimacy that can be challenging. However, God, the source of the couple’s love can work powerfully through their prayer, deepening their relationship with each other.

Couple Prayer creates the sacred space in our marriage where we open ourselves to God’s presence.

Why Pray as a Couple?

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image8814711One reason is the high correlation between couple prayer and marriage stability – the couple that prays together, stays together. Jesus promised that when two or more are gathered in his name, he would be in their midst.
While individual prayer is always essential, there is a special power that comes through couple prayer. The Sacrament of Matrimony is expressed through relationship and God’s grace is always available to us in helping us to become more and more ‘one flesh’, that is, a communion of body and soul.

Praying as a couple also enhances family prayer. The more comfortable parents are in praying together, the more effective they will be in drawing their children into family prayer.

Keys to Couple Prayer

  1. Trust
    We don’t have to be ‘super holy’ to pray as a couple. God wants us to come to him as we are, without pretense. Aim to pray with the same trust and familiarity with which we converse with our closest friends.
  2. Regularity
    As with all relationships, regular contact keeps communication flowing easily. Just make a start. Then try to make it more regular. Developing a ‘rhythm’ of praying at a certain time helps to bring order into our pressured modern lives, prioritising God and each other. The key is to find a good time when our routine can accommodate some minutes for Couple Prayer.
  3. Flexibility
    However, ‘prayer on the run’ may be just what is necessary at certain moments. Try different approaches according to different needs and situations.
  4. Openness
    There are many things to pray about but our marriage is of central importance. Openness to each other in prayer opens us to God’s grace. The more open and self-revealing we can be about our emotions and needs in our marriage, the more we will grow in affection for each other and the more we will grow spiritually.

Ways to Pray as a Couple

[learn_more caption=”1. Just Do it!”] God loves us and yearns for us to be in communication with him. But we have to make a first step. It may be simply holding hands and praying silently together or saying a Hail Mary together. The Lord will always respond![/learn_more]

[learn_more caption=”2. Evening Prayer”] Hold hands and rest quietly for a minute to become aware of God’s presence.Think about how have you experienced God through your spouse today. Share with each other, then pray together:

Lord God, I praise you for the gift of my spouse, and I thank you for the blessings I have had through him/her. Forgive me for the times that I have failed to love my spouse the way I should, and help me to do better in bringing your love and acceptance to him/her Amen.

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[learn_more caption=”3. Scripture Prayer”] Prayer can be based on a scripture passage (eg the Gospel of the day), reading the passage slowly and sharing what one hears God saying through it.[/learn_more]

 

This is a guest post from the Australian Catholic Marriage and Family Council. CathFamily is proud to be associated with the Australian Catholic Bishop’s St Valentine’s Day which has been producing a resource kit since 2010 to commemorate this day. In 2014, the theme is Couple Prayer. For additonal resources, check out the ACMFC website.
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